Saint Placide, 4pm.
I picked up Farah after her lectures. I her see away, smiling, offering me to go walk in jardin du Luxembourg who is just a foot by. We walk, the weather is hot, we sit on a bench.
Farah is in second year of law and political science at the catholic institute in Paris. « I feel good there because we are not a class of 500/600 students, we are just 150 so it’s really nice to talk over in the classrooms with the other students or the professor himself. I am in a private institution and I am Maghrebi, so sometimes it’s hard not to jump onto the first one who says nonsense. Sometimes, in class, I had to face my own professors saying things a little bit out of border on the Algerian colonisation for example or on women. »
I also asks her what did she think about the elections. « It was really nonsense. With the banalisation of the FN and people that were abasing the one’s who were voting for Macron, I was loosing myself. Without lying, I didn’t identify to one of the candidates and I found that shameful because these were the first presidential’s elections where I could vote. I found that amount of time unbearable seeing the big minds of this world writing books on social medias or pretend to have a godlike opinion even though they don’t even know what they are talking about. Even after 2 years of law and political sciences, I don’t understand every part of it, it’s more complicated than it seems. »
We discuss after of her idea of the representation of the women today. « It’s a big mess. Between girls that insults other girls of whores for nothing or girls that are almost bare on public way to express themselves, I can’t find myself. Social medias have a big impact on our image : I see a lot of guys saying to girls that they are whores, my friends or even sometimes on a picture where we can see our curves. But why ? Even girls go offend others ? There’s a constant slutshaming based on appearance. And don’t even start me on the « A girl who has sex is a slut », « If you had sex with more than 3 guys you’re a slut ». Following social medias, a nice girl doesn’t drink, doesn’t smoke, doesn’t go out, doesn’t talk to any guy and never had sex. Today, being mentioned on Twitter to be treated of « sluts », « bitch » is kind of normal. One day, after a debate on rape, normally there’s actually no debate on this subject, a guy told me « Since I saw your profile picture, I’d rape you » and reading this really left me speechless. »
The discussion then drifts with the differences between our generation and the generation just after ours. We tale about this new generation, into social medias since birth and sexualized since the youngest age, that grows up a little too fast. « Today very young girls are going to be sexualized, by the photos that they can post or even by things they could say. I’m not saying you have to dress this or another way but I think that you need an pretty big amount of maturity to « survive » to social medias. Internet is overcrowding with weirdoes, really bad people and it’s not for nothing that a big amount of boys and girls took their lives for social medias and also what we call cyberbullying exists. Personally, when I was born, Internet didn’t even exist, but later when I was a teen, my parents managed me a lot with this : At 9pm, they use to take my phone… I used to find them really annoying but today I’m glad they did it. Snapchat’s emergence changed a lot of things, there’s something I find really unhealthy with what we call nudes. How many girls were humiliated because guys they trusted posted these nudes ? I’m not disowning social medias, I use them a lot, it’s my small addiction, but I think we need to be aware of this. »
We then talk about her relationship with makeup : « In middle school, I wasn’t aloud to wear any makeup except for when i was going out but I didn’t put much of it. And I’m glad I didn’t because I didn’t put anything on my face, I left my skin bare breathing and blossoming for a long time and I still don’t put anything on today. I really started wearing makeup in highschool, I put basic stuff (mascara, blush, powder… ). I spend my time off doing eye makeup, I love doing nice colors and I like it when it sparkles, but I don’t use it as a priority. I can easily be annoyed by girls that say « I can’t even go out without putting this or that… », I think it’s such a shame to determine your identity through makeup. Without makeup, I am Farah and with makeup, I am Farah. »
I finally ask her what is being a vraie meuf (real girl) to her. « A girl that assumes herself without trying to fit into a specific mould, when you stand out we constantly try to control us with Kylie Jenners etc. A real girl is a girl who doesn’t have any clones or copies. »